Empathy: Extreme (largely unwarranted) empathy of Luka supporters & does Luka feel empathy?
Empathy. It’s a funny thing. We all feel it it. (Well 96%-99% of the population.) All Luka supporters and fans are most certainly extreme empaths! Empathy is about feeling what someone else feels, feeling bad for and relating to someone’s situation, but there are different ways of doing that.
I have always experienced empathy in what I believe are strange ways. I’ve mentioned how I am often detached from real life, living my life in my own fantasy world. People sometimes accuse me of being cold. Fact is, I find it difficult relating to the emotions of those closest to me. I don’t know why it is, but I really have a hard time understanding the emotions of people when those emotions are shoved right in my face. Happy I get, I can generally share in anyone’s joy, but I find it hard to relate when I see people crying. Even though I’m a big cry-baby myself sometimes, and I know how to comfort people and be there for them, I really have a hard time letting it in if it’s too close. It seems oddly foreign to me, detached. And anger I just don’t get at all, even my own anger seems far away from me. I don’t recognize myself when I’m angry; it’s like I’m looking through a window into someone else’s life. But when someone else is angry at me or at someone else near me, I just never get it. I sit there puzzled wondering what the heck happened. Sure, make it personal enough and I’ll get upset for myself, but I never relate and really understand someone else’s rage from their point of view.
Then there’s TV, movies, music, books….anything arms length. This is where I feel the most empathy! It’s really quite strange! A show doesn’t even need to be that sad for me to start bawling my eyes out (think The Littlest Hobo). Even songs I’ve heard a thousand times can make me cry (think Don’t Take the Girl, Tim McGraw)! (The opening credits alone of Titanic make me cry!)When I watch something that affects me emotionally the empathy I feel lasts for a long time. I can’t count the number of times I’ve walked out a movie theatre crying, only to have it really hit me even more after I start discussing the movie with someone. Nearly every novel I read ends with me crying. The people who know me think it’s funny how emotional I get over fictional characters.
Then there’s real people I don’t know, but read about in the news. I get wrapped up in people’s stories. Good news or bad, I love reading about other people’s lives. Be it a wedding announcement or a death announcement, if a good back-story is given, I feel for them as if it were my own life. When 9/11 happened I just kept reading the names of the plane passengers going across the ticker at the bottom of the screen and crying for them all and for their families.
In real life I feel so much more empathy for animals than for people I know personally. Given that Luka is likely responsible for torturing and killing helpless kittens, I can’t help but wonder why I feel empathy for him at all. In many ways, he really doesn’t deserve it! But I feel for Luka to the extreme! Empathy just doesn’t get much bigger than this! I feel sad for the little abused boy. I feel for the man who was so messed up from his messed up childhood that it drove him to the seedy adult industry where he likely witnessed and and experienced many damaging and unnatural things. I feel for the man who was unloved and had no friends, who had to resort to being his own biggest fan.
If Luka is a psychopath, it’s likely he is not capable of experiencing empathy. But why then was he reportedly crying on the plane on his way to Paris? Could he just be masquerading as a psychopath, but really be messed up in other ways that drove him to this extreme? And doesn’t psychopathy preclude one from experiencing other disorders that Luka apparently has, like Body Dysmorphic Disorder and Anxiety? Or could he be a sociopath? A secondary psychopath created by society; partially capable of human emotion and empathy, but damaged by the world he lived in? So many questions, so few answers! Will we ever know exactly what Luka is or what goes on in his mind? I just find it so hard to accept that there are people out there who feel no empathy at all, and I can’t believe Luka would be one of those people.
Would Luka even care that we all feel so much sympathy for him? Or would Luka hate us for feeling sorry for him? And would he be embarrassed he’s been exposed as being his own biggest Fan? Poor Luka; he just can’t win!